Retailers Hate That You Buy Big Things on Your Laptop

Shoppers want to make significant purchases on their laptops. Retailers really want them to do more on their phones.

Lately, the retailers are winning more often.

Mobile e-commerce has for years been hailed as the future of shopping . Online shops as well as airlines and hotels have upgraded and pushed apps or mobile-optimised websites as a way to get our attention—and access to our wallets. By using push notifications , mobile-only deals and other levers, vendors can tempt customers to make quick, unplanned purchases.

It’s finally working, as this past holiday season was the first time mobile-revenue share surpassed desktop, reaching 61% on Christmas Day, according to data from Adobe .

But that increase masks what shoppers say they want, particularly when it comes to large purchases. They often call these “big-screen purchases”—shopping done on computers. You might not like a retailer’s app or mobile website. You might prefer a web browser with extensions that track coupons or price changes. You might just want a second window open to check a calendar or a map.

And the laptop’s extra friction makes shoppers more careful: Many people say they have moved too fast on a phone, accidentally buying the wrong plane tickets.

As more companies amp up their mobile offerings to lure more shoppers away from their laptops, it’s good to be aware of the differences, especially if it could mean saving money.

Highflying purchase

Amanda Natividad, a 38-year-old vice president at a Los Angeles marketing startup, says she always opens her laptop before making a purchase.

She uses browser extensions to search for coupons and maximise credit-card benefits. It’s also easier for her to fill in her credit-card information with her computer in front of her and her password manager on hand, she says. And she can more easily double-check her calendar when booking flights.

“It’s just an old ingrained behaviour,” Natividad says. “It’s a flight, better use my computer for this.”

Many people tend to be on their phones while they’re distracted or in transit, but they use their computers when they’re at home or in the office, making it easier to focus, says Tim Calkins, a professor of marketing at Northwestern’s Kellogg School of Management.

“If you’re thinking about taking a vacation, early on you might be browsing through lots of different options and thinking generally about all the wonderful places you can go,” he says. “It is a very different mindset when you’re ready to spend thousands of dollars on booking the actual trip.”

Chasing convenience

Sarah Baicker, a 39-year-old content-marketing and communications manager in Washington Crossing, Pa., feels comfortable using her phone for almost every task or purchase, especially now that she’s chasing around a 2-year-old daughter. She booked a flight on the JetBlue app on New Year’s Day when she realised some credits were expiring.

“Sometimes it’s more annoying to make a purchase on a phone—that doesn’t bother me,” Baicker says. “I’m not bothered by a little bit of extra work for the sake of the convenience of not having to track down a secondary piece of technology.”

Companies have worked to make mobile purchases even easier. Services such as Apple Pay, Google Pay or Shop Pay automatically add in our billing and shipping information to our orders. If we’re shopping in an app, we’re usually already logged in and don’t have to dig up our credentials. (These are also available on laptop browsers, but they function smoothly within many mobile apps and shopping websites.)

Mobile shopping also scratches an itch for consumers who are scrolling their social-media feeds, with endless posts and stories shilling products to buy. When it comes to impulse shopping, 48% of people are likely to do so on a phone, compared with 19% on a laptop and 10% on a desktop, according to Slickdeals, a website that tracks sales and coupons.

The convenience factor seems to be working for many companies. In 2023, people shopped for flights on the United Airlines app 123 million times, a 23% increase from the year before, says a United spokeswoman. On Airbnb , 54% of total nights booked last quarter were done on the app, up from 49% booked during the same period a year ago, the company reported in its most recent quarterly earnings.

HotelTonight, which is owned by Airbnb, has long been a mobile-first company, with more than 90% of bookings happening on the app, and with some deals only available on mobile, says Ron Sandel, general manager of HotelTonight.

“At the end of the day, we’re a last-minute booking app. If you’re booking on the go—like so many of our users often are—you’re not pulling your laptop out to do that,” Sandel says.

A wider view

Though mobile shopping is becoming more popular, it still can’t make up for a bigger screen.

Logan Medeiros, a 23-year-old lifestyle and beauty content creator in Montreal, always pulls up her laptop to make a large purchase—such as her latest trip to Vancouver, Canada. The bigger screen makes it easier to open multiple tabs to compare hotels and flights.

That extra display real estate also prompts her to use her laptop for other purchases, such as buying clothes.

And more-mindful shoppers use their laptops to prevent impulse buys.

Alexander Lewis, a 31-year-old ghostwriter for tech companies and executives in Austin, Texas, set rules for himself to follow before buying anything online, such as mostly purchasing on a laptop and waiting at least a day before making the final call.

He says when he gets back to his cart, he often wonders whether he actually wants to read a book or own an article of clothing he saved.

“Having the internet always around us is an easy way to mindlessly spend our attention and also spend our money,” Lewis says.

To get what you want, try closing your mouth.

A well-deployed silence can radiate confidence and connection. The trouble is, so many of us are awful at it.

We struggle to sit in silence with others, and rush to fill the void during a pause in conversation. We want to prove we’re smart or get people to like us, solve the problem or just stop that deafening, awkward sound of nothing.

The noise of social media and constant opinions have us convinced we must be louder to be heard. But do we?

“I should just shut up,” Joan Moreno , an administrative assistant in Spring, Texas, often thinks while hearing herself talk.

Still, she barrels on, giving job candidates at the hospital where she works a full history of the building and parking logistics. She slips into a monologue during arguments with her husband, even when there’s nothing good left to say. She tries to determine, via a torrent of texts, if her son is giving her the silent treatment. (Turns out he just had a cold.)

“I should have just held it in,” she thinks afterward.

We often talk ourselves out of a win. Our need to have the last word can make the business deal implode or the friend retreat, pushing us further from people we love and things we want.

“Let your breath be the first word,” advises Jefferson Fisher , a Texas trial lawyer who shares communication tips on social media.

The beauty of silence, he says, is that it can never be misquoted. Instead, it can act as a wet blanket, tamping down the heat of a dispute. Or it can be a mirror, forcing the other person to reflect on what they just said.

In court, he’ll pause for 10 seconds to let a witness’s insistence that she’s never texted while driving hang in the air. Sure enough, he says, she’ll fill the void, giving roundabout explanations and excuses before finally admitting, yes, she was on her phone.

For a mediation session, he trained a client to respond in a subdued manner if the other party said something to rile him up. When an insult was lobbed, the client sat quietly, then slowly asked his adversary to repeat the comment. No emotional reaction, just implicit power.

“You’re the one who’s in control,” Fisher says.

Acing negotiations

To be the boss, “you gotta be quiet,” says Daniel Hamburger , who spent years as the chief executive of education and healthcare technology firms.

He once sat across the negotiating table from an executive who was convinced his company was worth far more than Hamburger wanted to pay to acquire it. What Hamburger desperately wanted to do was explain all the reasons behind his math. What he actually did was throw out a number and then shut his mouth.

Soon they were shaking on a deal.

Hamburger, who retired last year and now sits on three corporate boards, also deployed strategic silence when running meetings or leading teams. If the boss chimes in first, he says, some people won’t speak up with valuable insights.

Days into one CEO job, Hamburger was confronted with two options for rewriting a piece of the company’s software. He didn’t answer, and instead turned the question back on the tech team.

“People were like, ‘Really? Are you really asking?’” he says. By morning, he had a 50-page deck from the team outlining the plan they’d long thought was best. He left them to it, and the project was done in record time, he says.

A day without speaking

Staying mum can feel like going against biology. Humans are social animals, says Robert N. Kraft , a professor emeritus of cognitive psychology at Otterbein University, in Ohio.

“Our method of connecting—and we crave it—is talking,” he says, adding that it excites us, raising our blood pressure, adrenaline and cortisol.

For years, Kraft assigned his students a day without words. No talking, no texting. Some of the students’ friends reported later that they’d been unnerved. After all, silence can be a weapon.

Many students also found that when forced to listen, they bonded better with their peers.

When we spend conversations plotting what to say next, we’re focused on ourselves. Those on the receiving end often don’t want to hear our advice or semi related anecdotes anyway. They just want someone to listen as they work through things on their own.

The question mark trick

Without pauses, we’re generally worse speakers, swerving into tangents or stumbling over sounds.

Michael Chad Hoeppner , a former actor who now runs a communications training firm, recommends an exercise to get used to taking a beat. Ask one question out loud, then draw a big question mark in the air with your finger—silently.

“That question mark is there to help you live through that fraught moment of, ‘I really should keep talking,’” Hoeppner says.

At a cocktail party or in the boardroom, you can subtly trace a question mark by your side or in your pocket to force a pause.

Sell with silence

Fresh out of college, Kyler Spencer struggled through meetings with potential clients. Some sessions stretched to two hours and still didn’t end in a yes.

The financial adviser, based in Nashville, Ill., realized he was rambling for 15-minute stretches, spouting off random economic facts in an attempt to sound savvy and experienced.

“I basically just bulldozed the meeting,” says Spencer, now 27.

He started meditating and doing breathing exercises to calm his nerves before meetings. He now makes sure to stop talking after a minute or two. The other person will jump in, sharing about their life, fears and goals. It’s information Spencer can use to build trust and pitch the right products.

His client list soon started filling up, and happy customers now send referrals his way.

“It’s amazing,” he says, “what you learn when you’re not the one talking.”