When It Comes to Marriage and Money, Opposites Attract
Spouses reshape each others’ financial behaviour, for richer and poorer, marriage research suggests
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The person you marry will often change your relationship to money.
We tend to choose our partners based on shared values, in-common traits and other similarities, marriage researchers say. But money-management styles are one case in which opposites do attract, said Jenny Olson, an assistant professor of marketing at Indiana University who studies couples’ financial decision-making.
We are drawn to people who can check and balance our own rigid rules about money, Prof. Olson said. Someone who feels they are too focused on saving and not focused enough on using money to enjoy life might look for a partner who can help them feel more comfortable with an occasional splurge.
Over the decades, however, spouses often grow more alike. The spendthrifts married to the tightwads manage to find some middle ground, learning from one another in the process, said Scott Rick, a marketing professor at the University of Michigan whose studies marital finances.
“The spouses who don’t converge have a harder time and those marriages are probably more fragile and could end in divorce,” Prof. Rick said, referencing his analysis of 1,303 couples, which will be published in a forthcoming book.
This mutual influence along with the built-in financial accountability couples get when they pool their assets are partly why married couples have a financial advantage over their single counterparts, researchers say. The median net worth of married couples 25 to 34 years old was nearly nine times as much as the median net worth of single households in 2019, up from four times as much in 2010, according to research from the Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis.
When Kristen James, a 33-year-old product manager in Austin, Texas, first started dating her now-husband, Ben, a 35-year-old startup co-founder, she noticed they came to the relationship with different approaches to their finances. Mr. James considered himself much more of a financial risk-taker; Ms. James preferred to manage her money more conservatively.
Instead of their differences erupting in conflict, Ms. James said her husband’s approach had a positive influence. After talking it over as a couple, Ms. James made the leap to change her career, moving into the technology industry and ultimately earning a higher salary as a result. Without her husband’s encouragement, she said she wouldn’t have felt secure making such a huge life change.
“He said, ‘You’re worth far more than what you’re making,’ and he pushed me to take on more risk and challenge myself in different ways,” she said.
Couples who communicate about the differences in their financial beliefs are better able to make decisions together, as tedious as that practice may initially feel, said Matt Lundquist, a psychotherapist and the clinical director of Tribeca Therapy, a psychotherapy practice based in New York.
He points to clients who take a regular weekend trip and have made it a habit to use the driving time to discuss their finances. While the children snooze in the back of the car, the parents review the state of their budgets and check in on progress toward longer-term goals.
Talking as a pair also prevents an imbalance of power in which one partner appoints themselves money manager, said Adrian Ward, a marketing professor at the University of Texas at Austin.
In his own research looking at how couples manage their money, Prof. Ward found that one partner often takes charge of the finances, not because they’re better equipped to do so, but because they have more time for the job. The in-house money manager—whom Prof. Ward calls “the household CFO”—often shuts the other partner out of the decision-making. Sometimes, the other person is relieved, but over time, that partner’s financial literacy suffers.
“Even though it’s hard to make decisions together and we’re both busy, and it would be way easier for one of us to just do it, it’s the best long-term way to care for each other,” he said.
Marcella Mollon-Williams, a behavioural financial adviser based in Bowie, Md., runs a premarital financial counselling session for couples.
The main issue she sees early on in relationships: Couples too often talk about the things one partner wants the other to avoid doing with their money, as opposed to the things they want to do together.
“Talk about the desires money brings, the things you want to accomplish,” she said. “When you start dreaming together, identifying the things money can buy, it’ll become easier. It’s sort of looking ahead and then working backwards.”
To stay on the same page financially, Kristen and Ben James set a monthly family finance meeting. Talking about their goals, reviewing financial allocations and having time to connect on those topics helps them keep their sights trained on the bigger picture, Ms. James said.
When she’s tempted to scroll through Redfin real-estate listings, she relies on her husband to hold her accountable.
“We have each other to say ‘We’re not buying a new house right now’ or ‘We’re not buying a new car right now’—you have that other person to ground you,” she said.
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The ASX 200 rose 1.28 per cent in the week ending 30 October as miners rallied, consumer stocks fell and rate-rise expectations climbed
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The Australian sharemarket rose during four of five sessions in the week ending 30 October, but the headline gain concealed a sharp divide between recovering miners, rate-sensitive property stocks and retailers hit by inflation and weaker trading updates.
The Australian sharemarket finished October with a positive week, although the route higher was anything but uniform.
The S&P/ASX 200 closed Friday 30 October at 8,908.1, gaining 112.9 points, or 1.28 per cent, from the previous Friday’s close of 8,795.2.
The All Ordinaries advanced 1.34 per cent to 9,025, while the more concentrated S&P/ASX 20 gained 1.11 per cent.
The benchmark rose during four of the week’s five sessions. It added 0.17 per cent on Monday and 0.46 per cent on Tuesday, before slipping 0.03 per cent on Wednesday. It recovered 0.50 per cent on Thursday and gained another 0.18 per cent on Friday.
The index briefly reached 8,933.3 but again failed to establish itself above the psychologically important 9,000-point mark.
The week’s central tension was between a resources recovery and a less forgiving domestic interest-rate outlook.
Materials gained 4.06 per cent, reclaiming part of the previous week’s heavy fall. Australian real estate investment trusts rose 3.77 per cent, financials gained 1.05 per cent and energy advanced 1.39 per cent.
At the other end of the market, consumer staples fell 5.13 per cent and consumer discretionary shares lost 2.35 per cent. Utilities declined 0.73 per cent and communication services eased 0.68 per cent.
Inflation changes the conversation
Australia’s September inflation data was the week’s pivotal domestic release.
Annual inflation of 4.3 per cent pushed market pricing towards another possible Reserve Bank increase and disrupted Wednesday’s early sharemarket rally.
By Thursday’s close, one widely followed market measure placed the probability of an increase in the cash rate to 4.85 per cent at approximately 80 per cent.
That pricing does not make an increase certain. It does, however, change the framework through which investors assess Australian businesses.
Companies dependent on discretionary household spending face renewed pressure on sales and margins. Property trusts, banks, developers and highly leveraged companies must be considered against the prospect of higher funding costs.
Banks present a more complicated equation. Higher rates can support margins, but they may also slow credit growth and increase arrears.
Miners recover
BHP gained 4.56 per cent across the week to close at $57.56, making a substantial contribution to the benchmark’s rise.
The recovery followed an 8.3 per cent fall during the previous week and helped lift the broader materials sector.
Northern Star Resources added 4.59 per cent, while Goodman Group advanced 6.85 per cent to become the strongest performer in the ASX 20.
The commodities picture was mixed. Gold fell approximately 3.12 per cent on the cited weekly measure, while Brent crude added around 0.68 per cent.
The Australian dollar was little changed at approximately US70.35 cents at the reference point.
Supermarkets and consumer shares retreat
The consumer-staples story was markedly weaker.
Coles fell 11.77 per cent after its first-quarter update, making it one of the largest significant-company declines of the week.
Woolworths lost 3.66 per cent and Wesfarmers fell 4.48 per cent to $76.69 as investors processed company trading commentary against the prospect of another squeeze on household demand.
The moves illustrate how quickly expectations can change when an apparently defensive company disappoints.
Supermarkets still benefit from the recurring need for groceries, but customers can trade down, shift between chains and reduce spending on higher-margin discretionary lines.
Wesfarmers carries exposure to several consumer categories through businesses including Bunnings, Kmart and Officeworks. A renewed rate increase would place more pressure on households already confronting higher prices.
The wider market’s biggest movements
Among companies outside the ASX 20, Mesoblast surged 27.32 per cent, SiteMinder gained 22.74 per cent and Zip rose 22.60 per cent.
The sharpest weekly falls included 4DMedical, down 33.51 per cent; Tuas, down 29.95 per cent; Catalyst Metals, down 17.47 per cent; and Champion Iron, down 13.35 per cent.
Those percentages require context.
The movements in BHP, Commonwealth Bank and other very large companies had substantially more influence on the index than similarly dramatic changes among smaller companies.
A 20 per cent move in a relatively small stock may attract more attention than a two per cent rise in a major bank, but the bank can have the greater effect on the market.
How the ASX 20 moved
The following list uses the S&P/ASX 20 constituents and five-session movements reported at the 30 October close.
Where the component feed did not publish a valid five-day comparison, no figure has been estimated.
BHP Group: Up 4.56 per cent
Commonwealth Bank: Up 1.66 per cent
Rio Tinto: Down 2.20 per cent
National Australia Bank: Up 0.48 per cent
Westpac: Up 0.08 per cent
ANZ Group: Up 1.92 per cent
CSL: Up 2.05 per cent
Macquarie Group: Up 2.19 per cent
Wesfarmers: Down 4.48 per cent
Woodside Energy: Up 1.43 per cent
Goodman Group: Up 6.85 per cent
Telstra: Five-day comparison unavailable from the cited component feed
Woolworths: Down 3.66 per cent
Fortescue: Five-day comparison unavailable from the cited component feed
Transurban: Down 2.40 per cent
QBE Insurance: Down 1.21 per cent
Aristocrat Leisure: Up 0.63 per cent
Northern Star Resources: Up 4.59 per cent
Sigma Healthcare: Down 0.36 per cent
Brambles: Down 1.20 per cent
The companies dominating the conversation
Coles was the week’s standout media-facing company for the wrong reason.
Its trading update produced an outsized repricing and drew attention across the grocery and retail sectors. Woolworths and Wesfarmers were also scrutinised as investors considered how stubborn inflation and another possible rate rise could affect sales volumes.
Bank of Queensland offered a more positive corporate signal.
The bank reported that its FY26 net interest margin had risen six basis points to 1.70 per cent, ahead of the 1.68 per cent expected by the market according to contemporaneous reporting.
Bank of Queensland shares rose 5.8 per cent on Thursday, while the major banks also rallied.
Endeavour Group finished Friday at $3.39, up 4.31 per cent on the day, and released the results of its annual general meeting.
The movement was notable during a week in which investors were highly sensitive to consumer-facing companies. The AGM result should not, however, be presented as the sole cause of the share-price increase without further supporting company guidance.
Mesoblast’s 23.4 per cent Thursday rise and 27.32 per cent weekly gain returned the biotechnology company to the centre of market attention.
For editors, it is important to separate the size of that percentage movement from its influence on the index. Mesoblast was an eye-catching performer, but it did not drive the ASX 200 in the way BHP or Commonwealth Bank did.
Qantas remained part of the broader market conversation as investors watched travel demand and company updates.
However, the primary-source review did not locate a fresh Qantas announcement that justified attributing a major weekly market movement to new company information. The airline should therefore remain on the monitoring list rather than being forced into the week’s causal narrative.
Is Australia’s IPO market reopening?
The official ASX new-listings pipeline remains active but selective.
ASX’s upcoming-floats page included formal applications with offer timetables extending through October and at least one anticipated listing on 30 November.
The exchange notes that its page covers companies for which a formal listing application has been received. It does not represent every company privately exploring a float.
The wider debate concerns whether Australia’s public market is sufficiently competitive when high-growth businesses can pursue capital in the United States or remain privately funded for longer.
ASX has previously raised possible reforms designed to improve the attractiveness of the local market. These include debate about reducing minimum free-float requirements and streamlining aspects of the admissions process.
An enhanced fast-track pathway for qualifying applicants can shorten the review process, reducing the execution risk created when market conditions change during a long IPO timetable.
That does not remove the more fundamental challenge.
New floats still require credible earnings or a convincing growth pathway, sensible pricing and enough genuine free float to support trading after listing.
Investors can already obtain diversified exposure through low-cost exchange-traded funds or buy established, liquid businesses. A float must therefore offer more than novelty.
The current pipeline suggests that the IPO window is open, but it is not indiscriminate.
What investors will watch next
The Reserve Bank’s next decision now sits at the centre of the domestic outlook.
Any change in cash-rate expectations will flow rapidly through banks, retailers, property trusts, listed developers and companies carrying substantial debt.
Investors will also watch whether the materials recovery can continue, whether BHP can hold its rebound and whether consumer companies provide further evidence of slowing demand.
Overseas, technology-sector volatility, commodity prices and the United States interest-rate outlook will continue to shape Australian trading.
The week’s 1.28 per cent headline gain was encouraging, but it was not a broad declaration of confidence.
It was a rotation towards miners, selected financials and property securities—and away from consumer businesses facing a more difficult inflation and interest-rate equation.
Market dashboard
S&P/ASX 200: 8,908.1, up 1.28 per cent for the week
All Ordinaries: 9,025, up 1.34 per cent
S&P/ASX 20: 5,214.7, up 1.11 per cent over five sessions
Best sector: Materials, up 4.06 per cent
Next-best sector: A-REITs, up 3.77 per cent
Weakest sector: Consumer staples, down 5.13 per cent
Major large-cap winner: Goodman Group, up 6.85 per cent
Major large-cap loser: Coles, down 11.77 per cent
AUD/USD: Approximately US70.35 cents at the weekly reference point
Gold: Approximately US$3,885 an ounce, down 3.12 per cent on the cited weekly measure
Brent crude: Approximately US$117.70 a barrel, up 0.68 per cent on the cited weekly measure
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