The Big Family Fight Is Over How to Work. ‘They Think I’m Insane.’
Generational debates about work may be brewing in the office, but they’re often louder on the home front
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Hybrid work. Hustle culture. Work-life balance.
Tensions over how to work don’t just permeate offices these days. They’re on full display within families.
“They think I’m insane,” Lisa Olson, 53, said of her children when she tells them she skipped lunch during the workday.
Her 25-year-old daughter, Emily Olson, tends to fit her job in advertising around her life, sometimes taking a midday break but also logging on after-hours if there’s work to be done. She thinks her mom struggles to make time for herself.
Like with the Olsons, many of these debates break along generational lines. Many parents in their 50s and 60s built careers in pay-your-dues work environments where 40 hours was the minimum spent in an office each week. They had clear-cut templates for getting ahead.
Their children, in contrast, joined the labor force over the past decade, as the gig economy took off, a pandemic upended 22 million jobs and millions of people embraced working from home. Technologies such as AI are scrambling their careers even more.
These debates about work are often more pointed, and personal, at home than on the job. Parents and their adult children say these conversations are often meaningful in navigating today’s multigenerational workforce.
“These are people who’ve known you all your life—you hope they understand what really matters to you,” said Megan Gerhardt, a management professor at Miami University’s Farmer School of Business and the author of a book about intergenerational workforces.
Emily has worked mostly remotely since graduating from college in 2020. One benefit is that she can integrate errands into her workday. Her mother, who works in financial services, urges her to go into the office.
“When you’re remote, you hop on a Teams call, and you talk about the issue at hand—and you don’t necessarily have extra time in that meeting to chat,” Lisa said.
Emily said that when she does commute to work, she often interacts with co-workers virtually since not all of her team lives in Chicago, where she’s based.
As long as she does good work and is responsive, working set hours in a set place isn’t important to her, she said. When a call was unexpectedly rescheduled to a Friday afternoon, when work is usually winding down, she logged on from the hair salon while getting highlights.
“It doesn’t have to be a rigid workday,” said Emily, who often works more than 40 hours each week.
Lisa, on the other hand, said she spent much of her career leaving for work at 7 a.m., and returning at 7 p.m., five days a week. “In my world, work is a completely separate item from my personal life,” she said.
Kristin Ned, 48, has logged long hours over her career in human resources, ready to respond to emergencies. Her 28-year-old daughter, Maaliyah Papillion, gives priority to rest when she’s not on the clock.
“She and I are not on the same page when it comes to what it takes to get something done,” said Ned, who lives in Lake Charles, La. “I know not everything can happen between 8 a.m. and 5 p.m.”
Papillion started an executive-assistant job this summer in New Orleans. A priority was professional boundaries, especially since she was embarking on a master’s program and had less free time.
“If work is over, work is over,” she said.
One Sunday night, Papillion got a work call. “Can it wait until tomorrow?” she replied. Later, she consulted her mom.
No one wants to make a work call on a Sunday night, Ned said, so it must have been important. Papillion said she now sees that little gestures go a long way, especially when building professional relationships.
Ned said she’s also learned from Papillion’s approach to work, such as when Ned’s company held a back-to-school campaign allowing for more work flexibility as parents adjusted to new school drop-off routines.
“We tried to make it as easy as possible,” she said.
Kendrick Hering, 24, has been patching together temporary gigs in landscaping and fixing up rental properties while he tries to launch his own business as a digital artist. His dad, Doug Hering, wants him to apply for more steady work.
Kendrick lives at home in Colorado Springs, Colo., and pays rent to his parents. He has been applying for more full- and part-time work for months, but with no luck. He also doubts full-time work would come with the job security and benefits that would make all the hustling he’s doing now worth it.
“To actually even find out about a job that I’m probably, just statistically speaking, not going to get, I have to do an exorbitant amount of research,” Kendrick said.
Doug Hering, a 63-year-old financial planner, has recommended his son apply to several jobs each day. He also has suggested he make business cards and perhaps enlist a life or business coach.
“You can’t sit back and do some digital advertising and hope that the floodgates will open,” said Doug, who took Kendrick to a networking event this month.
Lisbeth Darsh, a 57-year-old marketer based in Seattle, said her kids often encourage her to vie for promotions, so that her pay and title reflect her expertise. Her son, Justas Rodarte, 26, said his mum’s skills in writing to engage an audience are hard to match and she is better than he is at social media.
“My son is good at reminding me that there’s great value in what I do, and I owe it to myself to get that value,” Darsh said.
She’s not alone in taking advice from younger generations. About three-quarters of nearly 7,000 workers surveyed worldwide this summer said 20-something co-workers had influenced their attitudes toward issues such as work-life boundaries, fair pay and self-advocacy, according to Edelman, the public-relations firm that conducted the survey.
In the past, employers haven’t fully recognised Darsh’s skills, her son said, but this summer she won a promotion to become a director.
Now, his mum has a position that “fits her skills really well,” said Rodarte, who is pursuing a Ph.D. in immunology. “It’s the sort of thing that I wish I’ll be able to achieve.”
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From making unpopular decisions to learning when to listen, leaders from five businesses reveal what nobody prepared them for — and how running a company has challenged their expectations.
Technology and semiconductor shares fell sharply as investors questioned the debt financing the AI infrastructure boom and confronted higher rates and Chinese competition.
Elon Musk is exploring a potential merger between Tesla and SpaceX, a deal that could reshape the future of AI, robotics, autonomous vehicles and space technology. With a combined valuation potentially reaching $3.5 trillion, the move could bring Musk’s vision of an interconnected technology ecosystem closer to reality, although a deal remains uncertain.
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Elon Musk has engineered ties between Tesla TSLA 3.41%increase; up pointing triangle and SpaceX SPCX 7.79%increase; up pointing triangle that are hard to break, and now he wants to fuse them together permanently.
Musk has run both Tesla and SpaceX concurrently over the past two decades, using a schedule that dictated which days he spent focused on each business.
The companies have often shared resources and personnel, signaling their close ties. Last year, SpaceX looked into creating a spacesuit for Tesla’s humanoid robot Optimus, a person familiar with the matter said. Tesla last week showed off its new Roadster, a vehicle featuring SpaceX rocket thrusters that it hopes to soon bring to market.
And in recent months, Musk has repositioned both companies by expanding beyond their core operations toward a shared mission centered on artificial intelligence.
The world’s richest man on Tuesday signaled his interest in tying up SpaceX and Tesla, marking what would be the biggest corporate merger of all time. Because he serves as chief executive of SpaceX and Tesla, Musk said committees of independent directors at both companies are evaluating a possible deal, adding that a transaction might not come to fruition.
The committees will likely evaluate, with lawyers and bankers, how each company would fare in a potential deal and how a deal might best be structured. They then present their conclusions to their respective boards, who typically vote on whether to proceed.
“It’s an odd Kabuki dance where two groups of people are talking and I can’t be in the conversation,” Musk told SpaceX investors on Tuesday in response to an analyst’s question about a potential deal.
For Musk, the merger supports his vision of a world full of autonomous cars, humanoid robots and weekly rocket launches, as well as the data centers and satellites required to keep the whole thing running.
Some investors and analysts said they expect a transaction would be structured as an all-stock deal, with SpaceX potentially paying a modest premium for Tesla shares.
SpaceX, which has a market value of about $2 trillion, said it is seeing sharp growth in revenue across its businesses, which include operating data centers, launching rockets and operating satellite networks such as the internet service Starlink. Tesla is valued at about $1.5 trillion and is expanding its operations beyond its automotive and energy business. Shares in both companies traded higher following the news Tuesday.
Musk’s substantial ownership stakes in both companies, along with voting control at SpaceX, has enabled him to set the deal in motion. Analysts and investors said the deal will probably face regulatory scrutiny internationally, though some see Musk’s close relationship with the Trump administration as an asset to getting approval.
Blurred lines
The companies haven’t said which directors are on the special committees evaluating a potential deal. Several SpaceX and Tesla board members have either personal or business ties to Musk. And like Musk, venture capitalist Ira Ehrenpreis sits on both boards.
In a filing this week, Tesla outlined millions of dollars in business agreements with SpaceX and its subsidiaries last year, including $143 million in car sales to SpaceX, $3.3 million in advertising that it bought on the social-media platform X and $430 million in revenue from the sale of Megapack batteries for SpaceX’s data centers.
The companies also split the cost of resources including the use of Musk’s SpaceX jet and the bill for his personal security, which he runs through a private company.
Employees at both companies routinely move between companies to work on special projects, and some executives have dual roles, including Charles Kuehmann, vice president of materials engineering at both SpaceX and Tesla, and Ashok Elluswamy, the vice president of AI software at Tesla who runs a joint venture with SpaceX called Digital Optimus.
Over the years, Musk has launched new startups within his empire, including brain-implant company Neuralink, underground-tunnel developer the Boring Company and xAI, the AI startup that merged with SpaceX in February.
It is that AI business that Musk thinks can serve a market worth tens of trillions of dollars, justifying the need for a merger.
The business case goes like this: Tesla is developing robotaxis and robots, which it calls “physical AI.” SpaceX is working on the back end of physical AI: the data-center capacity and internet connection required for those robotaxis and robots to operate continuously.
“I don’t see what the value of Tesla is if it’s not merged with SpaceX,” said investment adviser Ross Gerber, a former Tesla bull turned critic invested in both companies. “If they don’t merge, the brains of everything that runs Tesla is owned by another company.”
On top of it all, both companies face constraints on the supply chains they need to make this world a reality, particularly when it comes to chips. To address this, Musk earlier this year announced a joint venture between Tesla, SpaceX and Intel to design and manufacture chips in Texas. “The most epic chip-building exercise by far,” he has said.
Musk at the wheel
For Musk, a merger would also solve two problems: demands on his attention and his lack of control at Tesla.
Tesla for years was Musk’s only public company, a status that came with greater scrutiny. There, Musk reports to a public board, as well as individual investors who make up around 30% of Tesla’s voting power, according to FactSet.
The question of Musk’s attention became a particular focus for investors and the board in recent years after he acquired Twitter in 2022 and launched xAI in 2023, and again in 2025 as he spent time in Washington, D.C., running the Department of Government Efficiency in the early months of President Trump’s second term.
As Tesla’s car business suffered in 2025, Musk threatened to take his AI ambitions outside the company if he wasn’t granted 25% voting control. Last November, Tesla shareholders approved a new pay package for Musk, which created a path for him to vastly expand his stake.
As of Sept. 30, Musk owned a roughly 20% stake in Tesla, according to the company’s proxy filing.
The SpaceX IPO gave Musk a different path. When SpaceX went public in June, the deal’s structure enabled him to have more than 80% voting power at the company—so much that he can’t be fired and decisions can’t be made without his support.
If SpaceX acquires Tesla, he will likely stay in control.
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